We hope the following information is helpful to individuals, families and advisors as you deal with the complexity of elder issues and the many decisions you face.
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Articles and Book by our Partners
"Mom Always Liked You Best: A Guide to Resolving Family Feuds, Inheritance Battles & Eldercare Crises" by Arline Kardasis, Rikk Larsen, Crystal Thorpe, and Blair Trippe, 2011
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"Mediation - A Resource for Helping Families Make Decisions Together" by Crystal Thorpe
"Talk More Than Turkey" by Blair Trippe
"Elder Mediation: Optimizing Major Family Transitions" by Rikk Larsen and Crystal Thorpe, Marquette Elder's Advisor Law Journal, Volume 7, Number 2, Spring 2006
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"Staying positive when Alzheimer's afflicts" by Rikk Larsen and Crystal Thorpe, South Shore Senior News, Alzheimer's Special Report, pp. 20-21, November 2006"Ten Tips for Tackling Conflicts" by Crystal Thorpe and Arline Kardasis, South Shore Senior News, February 2006"Elder and Family Mediation Services" by Arline Kardasis and Blair Trippe, LongTermCareLink.net, December 2005.
"When Aging Leads to Family Conflict" by Arline Kardasis and Rikk Larsen, Massachusetts Lawyers Weekly, April 2005
"Elder Decisions in Elder Mediation" by John Dugan and Arline Kardasis, Mediate.com, October 2004
"Tough Elder Decisions: The Mediation Option" by Rikk Larsen and Blair Trippe, Mediate.com, May 2004
“At the Crossroads: Family Conversations about Alzheimer’s Disease, Dementia & Driving” from The Hartford Financial Services Group, Inc., and the MIT AgeLab. Free Booklet and Support Group Kit available. www.thehartford.com/alzheimers
“Five Wishes” from Aging with Dignity, a “living will that talks about…personal, emotional and spiritual needs as well as … medical wishes” and meets legal requirements in 42 states. http://www.agingwithdignity.org/5wishes.html
"Mom Always Liked You Best: A guide for resolving family feuds, inheritance battles & eldercare crises," by Arline Kardasis, Rikk Larsen, Crystal Thorpe, & Blair Trippe (2011). Norwood, MA: Agreement Resources, LLC. Available in bookstores and at Amazon.com.“We Need to Talk: Family Conversations with Older Driver” online seminar produced by AARP based on information created jointly by The Hartford and the MIT AgeLab. www.aarp.org/home-garden/transportation/we_need_to_talk/
“Who Gets Grandma’s Yellow Pie Plate?” from the University of Minnesota Extension Service
http://www.yellowpieplate.umn.edu/
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"Strengthening Troubled Sibling Bonds to Deal With an Aging Parent"
by Abby Ellin, The New York Times, May 29, 2015
"Speak for Yourself, While You Can"
by Tom Lauricella, The Wall Street Journal Online, August 11, 2012
"The Ties that Blind: Elder Mediators Help Siblings Come To Peace for the Sake of Aging Parents"
by Robin Marantz Henig, Slate, February 9, 2012
"The Author Speaks - Caring for Our Aging Parents: An elder mediator and author helps siblings negotiate care for Mom and Dad"
by Sally Abrahms, AARP Bulletin, August 4, 2011
"Should You Hire an ‘Elder Mediator’?"
by Anne Tergesen, The Wall Street Journal Ditigal Network's SmartMoney Blog - Encore, August 2, 2011
"Family Value: A Referee for Family Disputes"
by Anne Tergesen, The Wall Street Journal, February 5, 2011
"Elder-Care Mediators Help Resolve Feuds"
by Sandra G. Boodman, The Washington Post, December 14, 2010, page E05
Also titled "Mediators Increasingly Try to Help Families Resolve Conflicts Over Aging Parents"
by Sandra G. Boodman, WashingtonPost.com, December 13, 2010
"Oh, Brother! With Parents Aging, Squabbling Siblings Turn to Elder Mediation"
by Sally Abrahms, AARP Bulletin, September 20, 2010
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"Mediators Help Families with Tough Choices of Aging"
by Joseph Shapiro, National Public Radio Morning Edition, April 13, 2009
"Mediating Elder-Care Disputes" by Tom Lauricella, Wall Street Journal Online, March 2, 2008
"The Caregivers: Sibling disputes over care" CBS Evening News, February 20, 2007
"Mediators Save Caregivers' Relationships: Professionals can help siblings make the tough health care decisions for aging parents" CBS Evening News.com article, February 20, 2007
"Eldercare choices revive sibling fights" by Carla K. Johnson, Associated Press, January 13, 2007
"Siblings revive conflicts when parent care comes up" by Carla K. Johnson, Associated Press, in Fifty Plus Advocate, January 4, 2007
"Mediators Ease Decisions on Elders: Mediators ease elder decisions" by Maggie Jackson, The Boston Globe, December 3, 2006
Mediation and Aging - website of The Center for Social Gerontology
Resources for Elders and their Families
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Appendix 2 - Readiness for Caregiver Responsibilities