Elder Mediation:  Shared family decision-making

Changes in people's needs and roles as they age can impose new stresses on elders and their loved ones. Faced with these challenges, many families seek help to develop new ways of coping with evolving relationships and changing realities. Mediation provides an opportunity for the elder and all concerned members of the family to participate in creating a thoughtful plan for the future.

Opening Communication among Siblings

Often as family members age, family dynamics can become more entrenched and complicated. Conflicts that may have simmered below the surface can boil up and make family conversations very difficult. Siblings, dealing with differences in their own geographic, economic and immediate family structures often find working together challenging. Thoughtful decision making can seem all but impossible.

At Elder Decisions we are aware of the stresses and challenges posed by aging family members. Caregiver burnout and inheritance issues are common in families and require difficult conversations. Health, financial and caregiving concerns are serious issues demanding that all family members weigh in with their views. As family members seek to equitably share the burdens and resources of the family, their individual perceptions of fairness are critical.

Mediators trained in issues related to estates, eldercare and social gerontology can help facilitate family discussions about matters relating to safety, finances and capabilities while keeping in mind the senior’s desire for individual control and respect.

Elder mediation addresses a wide variety of family concerns

Elder Decisions mediators help you create workable solutions to achieve smooth transitions for your family. Each family’s needs are different but issues that often are discussed include:

• Estate & Trust matters
• Residence questions & medical options
• Caregiver Burnout
• Assistance to avoid court guardianships
• Issues related to driving
• Planning and anticipating issues before crises develop

If you or someone you know could benefit from structured assistance in family decision making, contact Elder Decisions. One of our partners will discuss your situation with you to understand the scope of the issues and the other parties whom you think should be involved. Following this, the other identified parties will be contacted for some further discussion, basic information gathering and scheduling.

We recommend beginning the mediation process before a crisis occurs to ensure that thoughtful well-considered strategies for dealing with life transitions are put in place. Mediation can strengthen family ties and enable all family members to deal with the changing nature of their relationships in a way that provides peace of mind and leaves them with no regrets in the future.